posted by [identity profile] sgamadison.livejournal.com at 08:44pm on 28/11/2011
I can honestly say that though I have been depressed in my lifetime, it has never reached this level, so I cannot completely comprehend what it is like to live with something like this.

I have lived with people who have experienced it, however, and it truly frightens me to watch what they go through and to feel helpless to say or do the right thing. I've watched as friends dealt with the aftermath of suicide in their families, and I've worried about not being supportive enough or doing enough for the people I know who are suffering.

I saw this today and thought of you (and others dear to me that are struggling right now)

In which a professional athlete talks about his struggle with depression: http://www.twitlonger.com/show/ecoqm1

And I have to ask--is this guy right? Because at what point do you do more than merely 'be supportive'? At what point do you intervene and say, please, please get help (as I have wanted to do with one person recently) or say, "I don't think you've noticed, but you're in a really dark place right now--has something changed?" Because that too, has happened in my observation recently.

I've got people I care about too much to lose to this. :-(
 
posted by [identity profile] vida-boheme.livejournal.com at 09:13pm on 28/11/2011
Ah, Stan C... He's a local boy. He's made some monumental mistakes in his life, but I have a sneaking admiration for him as far as being honest about his depression is concerned.

I agree with him that there reaches a stage where general support has to turn into intervention. There have been two occasions when D has sat down with me and simply said, "I really think this has reached the stage where you need to see somebody." In some ways, knowing it was becoming a worry to him made it easier for me to go.

If you're at the point of feeling scared, then tell the person you are worried about. Keep it simple. Offer to make the appointment and go with them. Don't make it a debate if they don't reply. Give them a couple of hours to take it in (the depressed brain is like a buffering YouTube video on a bad connection) and then ask them gently when they want to go.

Sorry if this entry has stressed you. *Hugs*
Edited Date: 2011-11-28 09:14 pm (UTC)
 
posted by [identity profile] sgamadison.livejournal.com at 09:55pm on 28/11/2011
Not a stressor at all, my dear. Simply something that keeps coming up lately and I want to be sure I'm doing as much as humanly possible to be there for the people I care about.

Which is why I am often blithely pretending that I haven't noticed anything is wrong while at the same time shoving my shoulder in someone's face so they can find it if needed. It's a fine line to walk between being there and pushing.

I like the YouTube buffering analogy--I'll have to remember that one. *hugs you back*

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