posted by [identity profile] vida-boheme.livejournal.com at 09:13pm on 28/11/2011
Ah, Stan C... He's a local boy. He's made some monumental mistakes in his life, but I have a sneaking admiration for him as far as being honest about his depression is concerned.

I agree with him that there reaches a stage where general support has to turn into intervention. There have been two occasions when D has sat down with me and simply said, "I really think this has reached the stage where you need to see somebody." In some ways, knowing it was becoming a worry to him made it easier for me to go.

If you're at the point of feeling scared, then tell the person you are worried about. Keep it simple. Offer to make the appointment and go with them. Don't make it a debate if they don't reply. Give them a couple of hours to take it in (the depressed brain is like a buffering YouTube video on a bad connection) and then ask them gently when they want to go.

Sorry if this entry has stressed you. *Hugs*
Edited Date: 2011-11-28 09:14 pm (UTC)
 
posted by [identity profile] sgamadison.livejournal.com at 09:55pm on 28/11/2011
Not a stressor at all, my dear. Simply something that keeps coming up lately and I want to be sure I'm doing as much as humanly possible to be there for the people I care about.

Which is why I am often blithely pretending that I haven't noticed anything is wrong while at the same time shoving my shoulder in someone's face so they can find it if needed. It's a fine line to walk between being there and pushing.

I like the YouTube buffering analogy--I'll have to remember that one. *hugs you back*

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